Thursday, January 14, 2010

Blindsided

My SIL is pregnant (for the 5th time). How do I react without bawling my eyes out? What do I say? What do I do to protect my fragile heart?
Truthfully, I am NOT happy for her. I am sad for me.

Where is my expected end?

17 comments:

  1. I'd be upset too. I'd probably avoid her like I have all my pregnant friends. I'm so sorry, Marie. Again, reason why we should move to an island- lbms and spouses only!

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  2. I know it's hard but if you care for your SIL you will pray that God guide you. It was hard for me when Connor was fighting for his life but I found solace praying and thanking God that the other babies there were doing better than mine. It meant that their parents would not have to go through the pain I was going through. Be blessed in knowing that her baby, your niece/nephew, will be a healthy baby and your SIL will not know the pain you do. Pray about it and God will see you through it. Bless the new child with health and happiness. Its what I did for my ex-husband's pregnant wife even thought I'm a bit resentful of him. *hugs*

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  3. I hurt everytime I hear a pregnancy announcement. praying for you tonight, hugs

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  4. Marie~
    Weird that I signed on to see this post, as I just found out my sister is pregnant for the seventh time. Now, I am in a little bit of a different situation than you, as I am blessed with two girls before I lost Austin. However, my reaction to finding out tonight was to do exactly what you wanted to do: bawl my eyes out. Cry is what I did because if I continue to keep everything inside, I feel like I am going to crack under this weight...

    It is normal and natural to feel the way that you do because we unforutnately will never look at pregnancy the same. We will no longer look at the delivery day as the same, so it is hard for us to be truly happy for people that make the process seem so simple and carefree.

    Trust in His plan, allow yourself to feel the feelings that you are, as we are all human and have to endure these complicated emotions. Know that you have a lot of support on here, and continue to find comfort as you pray that you will find a way out of what seems like never-ending pain and suffering, and will come out a better, stronger person.

    Now, realize as I write this, I need to absorb what I just wrote and try to do this for myself too. Take care of yourself!!

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  5. My heart aches for you because of course it's hard for you to hear your SIL's news and feel happy when you're wanting a baby so much. I'm glad you have a safe place to share this feeling and be comforted. Praying hard for your intention and for you to have the grace and strength from Him for when you do see her or talk with her next. Thinking of you and sending you love.

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  6. sending *hugs* your way. I can understand your pain. Thinking of you.

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  7. Just prayed for you, Mary. God will provide what you need, be it grace around your SIL or comfort for your healing heart. Lean on Him...

    ((hugs))

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  8. Sending you hugs and praying for peace. xoxo

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  9. Sending you hugs! I would want to avoid her too, but we both know that probably can't go on forever! Thinking of you!

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  10. It is so hard and I wish I could take away your pain. Sending you lots of HUGS during this difficult time. xx

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  11. I'm so sorry Marie...I've been there too. Wish I could wrap my arms you right now and cry with you! Praying for you, friend!

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  12. Sending you *BIG* hugs! I'm sad for you too.

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  13. Just said a prayer... Sending love...

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  14. ((HUGS)) I am sad for you too, you have every right to feel that way...

    Nicolle

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  15. Ouch. This is a tough one. My SIL is trying TTC despite having 2 year old twin boys...I know I'll be struggling with a jealous heart if she gets PG again. Hope you're able to find peace with time. Hugs!

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  16. Oh no! That has to be so hard to take! ((hug))

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