Saturday, February 26, 2011

Perplexed and Pissed

I am quite upset at the medical profession right now. After 5 doses of Cyto.tech, they finally decided to perform a D&E. They kept her (hungry) from early Thursday morning until Friday morning all because if they had to do a D&E, they wanted her stomach empty. After the 3rd dose, and she had not dilated (not even softened), they should have explored other methods. She even asked if they could go ahead and just do the D&E and they refused saying they don't do D&Es. Her OB was out of town so there was no way he could have been there to call the shots not knowing the full extent of what was happening. Finally around 7:00pm last night, they did the D&E.
This hospital will definitely be hearing from me, just like they did when we had Alyssa-Joy. I had to leave work Thursday at 1:00pm to go "ream" out the nurse, as she had not seen any since 5:30 that morning. I was in there changing her bedpan because the nurse had not shown her face. They sure heard my mouth!

I am just in shock as to why this happened. I am so sorry she had to join this club. They did not make her see the baby, she did not get pictures, the dr. never came back to see her after the procedure, they did not tell her if it was a boy or girl........ the list goes on. I am mad at the hospital, I am mad at the dr. and I am sad for my sister.
We have no answers at this point. We know it was not her cervix though as it was long and closed and refused to dilate. There were no blatant signs of infection, so we have no clue. Her water simply broke.
My sister is broken, hurt, weepy, and full of self-blame. Emotions we all know too well.

She has a follow up appointment with her OB early next week. Hopefully she will have some answers.

Thank you for the well wishes, expressions of sympathy, and prayers. I have forwarded them all to her. Please continue to keep them in prayer.

Awaiting my expected end,
Marie

16 comments:

  1. I'm crying for your sister right now. I can't believe all that insult had to added to injury. Please let her know that despite the doctors and nurses that didn't appear to care that there are strangers out here who do care and are praying!!

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  2. This is so hard to hear/read....It brings me back to having Eden. I am sure being there reminds you of you went through. It's something we never want to happen anyone, let alone our loved ones. I pray God bring comfort to your sister. Gosh, I am just so sorry. :(

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  3. Praying that your sister has both peace and strength in the days to come.

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  4. Bless her, just bless her. It sounds like there are a few people who need their butts chewed to pieces about right now. This makes me angry. I think sometimes these people just get so desensitized to these things that they do not realize how traumatic and devastating it actually is. So, so sorry for you guys! Praying!!!!

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  5. =******(((

    Im crying for her right now...her healing will be that much harder without having done these things with her child. I wish I had better words...sadly THERE are none that can ever make sense of such a tragedy and such a lack of respect from these drs. My heart hurts for her and for you. WE ARE FULL capacity in this community....im so sorry she has joined us as well (((hugs)))

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  6. I'm so sorry for your sister. I'm sorry she lost her baby and I am sorry she was treated that way. Please let her know I'm praying for her and all of your family.

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  7. Just recently started to follow you.. and am heartbroken to read of the news of your sister. Please know she, you, and your family are in my thoughts and foremost my prayers.

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  8. I wish you could see my mouth agape right now! I'm furious with you! How on earth could they do that to her? You definitely need to let administration know how poorly this was handled so it doesn't happen to someone else--I'm sooooo sorry for her, as if the loss of your child isn't enough, to then be treated with such disrespect is appalling! Please send my love and know I'm fully supporting you in taking action against this! Prayers going up for them!

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  9. I am so sorry your sister had to go through this..losing a baby is devastating enough let along having to deal with people who are clearly insensitive to the emotional toll this has on a family. I am a firm believer that every single person on this Earth should have to read Angie Smith's "I Will Carry You" because it will hopefully give them some insight on what it feels like to be in our shoes..I am praying for your sister and her family.

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  10. That is so sad, and it makes me want to take all those people by the collar and explain to them that the patient is a mother who lost her child, and should be treated with compassion and kindness. All of us here in this space know what it means. Obviously those doctors and nurses don't. This is so sad also that she has no answers as to why it happened, and I am guessing she might not have answers in the future either. What an incredibly sad situation.

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  11. So glad you were there to come to your sisters defense. I am in shock!

    Again, you have my deepest sympathies at the loss of this sweet little baby. May God continue to bless and keep you all.

    Praying...

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  12. that is complete and total bs. What kind of crap did they try to pull? I would definitely give them a piece of my mind if it was my sister. I am so sorry your sister has to go through this. No one deserves that.

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  13. Oh, Marie! My heart goes out to your sister and family. I am SO sorry for her loss. How fortunate she is to have you in her corner (changing bedpans, dear Goodness!) I am glad you plan to follow through with the hospital... Hopefully your sisters' treatment will not be repeated with others. HUGS and prayers for all of you!

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  14. I am SO incredibly sorry to hear this news of loss and the lack of care at the hospital!!!! Sending warm, encouraging thoughts to your sister & your family.

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  15. That is TERRIBLE! Can you please send me the name and address of the hospital. As someone working (newly though it is) with people to educate them on loss and how to help parents, I am incensed at these people!!! You can shoot me at email at michele at mendingheartbellies dot com or michele dot haytko at gmail dot com.

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  16. Ohhh boy! :(
    No words... no words! I just hate reading this... soo sad for your sister, Marie! Please give her a great big hug and let her know she's being thought of and prayed for by another understanding person... unlike those idiotic doctors and nurses (whom I'll also pray for)!

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