Thursday, May 14, 2009

Real Housewives

Does anyone watch this series? I must say I watched the OC version, the New York version and the Atlanta version. At first it was entertaining and was god for some mindless viewing (you know to give the brain a nap after a long day of work). I saw the New Jersey version last night and I was so disgusted I switched the channel half way through. These women (or at least the show is) are portraying themselves to be catty, low-classed, and very aggressive. They did not present themselves as role models. What would possess you to go on national tv that is being broadcasted across the nation and portray yourself that way? I truly hope hat they are no a reflection of the New Jersey community.

This got me thinking. What makes them a Real Housewife? Is it because they have children? Money? A big house? A spouse? What is a real housewife? Do you have to stay home to be considered a housewife? I consider myself a housewife even though I work. I cook, clean, do the laundry, take care of my hubby's needs (which are many!- run his errands, pay his bills, make doctors appointments, pick up his meds, etc.). What do yo consider a housewife? Are we as working women looked down on because we do not stay home? Because we are not Mrs. Cleaver?

In times past, a housewife was one who stayed home, cleaned everyday, cooked 3 times a day, Ironed clothing to a crisp, mowed the lawn, painted the house, fed the baby while vacuuming, and still had her hair perfectly coiffed, clothing free of seams, a string of pearls around her neck, and 4 inch heels. These women on the Real Housewives displays none of the characteristics. During each season, I can count on both hands and feet how many have nannies, buy mindless things, belittle each other, are intolerant and spread rumors.
I believe the definition of a real housewife should evolve as the world changes. Does that mean that these women are included in his category? In defining what a real wife is, I refer to the word.
Proverbs 31; 10-31 (New Century Version)
10. It is hard to find a good wife, because she is worth more than rubies.
11. Her husband trusts her completely. With her, he has everything he needs.
12. She does him good and not harm for as long as she lives.
13. She looks for wool and flax and likes to work with her hands.
14. She is like a trader's ship bringing food from far away.
15. She gets up while it is still dark and prepares food her family and feeds her servant girls.
16. She inspects a field and buys it. With money she earned, she plants a vineyard.
17. She does her work with energy and her arms are strong.
18. She knows that what she makes is good. Her lamp burns in the night.
19. She makes thread with her hands and weaves her own cloth.
20. She welcomes the poor and helps the needy.
21. She does not worry about her family when it snows, because they all have fine clothes to keep them warm.
22. She makes coverings for herself; her clothes are made of linen and other expensive material.
23. Her husband is known at the city meetings where he makes decisions as one of the leaders of the land.
24. She makes linen clothes and sells them and provides belts to the merchants.
25. She is strong and respected by the people. She looks forward to the future with joy.
26. She speaks wise words and encourages others to be kind.
27. She watches over her family and never wastes her time.
28. Her children speak highly of her. Her husband also praises her;
29. Saying, "There are many fine women, but you are better that all of them".
30. Charm can fool you and beauty can trick you, but a woman who respects the Lord should be praised.
31. Give her the reward she has earned. She should be praised in public for what she has done.

Do these women fit into this category. Parts of them, but they need to work on the being kind part, and showing themselves favorable so women can respect them. Those of us who work hard, give of ourselves, love the Lord, and still find time to tend to our families, we are REAL HOUSEWIVES.

What do you think about this show? What does the term real housewife mean to you?

Awaiting my expected end.


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  2. We haven't watched this show since it was set in OC and NY, but I get what you're saying. If that's a "real housewife", I'll delight in being an imposter!