Next up were my father and step-mother. Again, they did not take it so well. Hubby and I sat there for an hour listening to how they were hurt (mostly my step-mom) and they cant believe that we "hid" it from them, and how they would never have forgiven us if something had happened and they were left in the dark. hey too, expressed happiness, but said it was "immature" of hubby to not force me to tell.
Are we the only ones that understand the logic or why we wanted to wait before saying anything?
Next up was my older sister. Who took it the same as everyone else. She also sated that she was hurt and that I should have at least told my dad and twin sister.
Last up was my grandmother. Oh the wisdom of the elderly! She explained why we should have said something, but that she understood. She stated that at the end of the day, whether or not we told my parents in the beginning or the end, they would still worry, and why would we not want the support regardless of the outcome? She reinforced the fact that they (father and step-mom) loved us both and only want what is best for us so we should never have left them in the dark.
Again, are we the only ones that understood the logic behind why we chose not to say a word? That nigh and the days following left me feeling crappy. Thank heavens for some good friends who encouraged me! Hubby finally said something to me that made sense. At the end of the day we made the decision that we felt was best.
So the experience of telling our families was not a good one, but friends took it extremely well. How sad is that? Friends took it better than family.
BTW-I noticed I lost a follower. I know hearing about subsequent pregnancies are hard and it is never my intention to hurt anyone. My only hope from this blog is to help others through my experience. To those who have stuck with me, thank you so much for all your support and understanding. If you are still waiting for your miracle, please know that I am praying constantly for you and hope to one day share your journey with you.
Awaiting my expected end.